Nixzmary Brown 4th Anniversary

Instead of writing about Nixzmary yesterday Jan 11, 2010, on the 4th anniversary of her passing, I decided to read more about her life. After reading about her tragic life, I paused and wondered if I was better off not knowing. "Pain is pain" I thought to myself. However, I continued reading because she continued to endure a nightmare everyday. What's a few words compared to the constant terror she experienced? To say that I was at a loss for words is an understatement. When I saw the pictures of the room in which she met with her death, it was overwhelming. It was so haunting.

There is just no amount of justification for how everyone pretty much let her down her whole life. I've seen people go out of their way for an animal yet not out of their way enough for her when she was alive and sadly not well. My answers are not as crucial to answer as much as the answers of all the people in her life. People that I hope every single day of their lives deep down inside ask themselves, "Why did I hesitate?" Are they at peace with themselves? I doubt it. However, she is now resting in peace.

Remembering Nixzmary Brown.

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Links:
Previous Nixzmary Articles
NixzmaryBrown.info (Chronicles, Images etc)
CrimeSceneBlog.com (Nixzmary Soldiers, Law etc)

Nixzmary Brown 3rd Anniversary

Today marks the third year anniversary of Nixzmary Brown's death. When thinking about Nixzmary it is really easy to shift the focus to what has happened to the people who hurt her and let her down in the worst way. I don't want this to be about them, it would be as if ignoring her all over again as it was done to her when she was alive.

She needed love, patience and guidance. Some tried, some felt their hands were tied but they tried. Some didn't try enough and the others just thought someone else would take care of it...and they did yet not in the way anyone expected.

Ever so often her picture pops up on the news in relation to the case against her mom and stepdad. You can't help but look into her eyes and not even hear what is being said. It is almost as if the words now are meaningless because she needed them when she was alive.

Then the "what if's" start as in, what if she would have been taken in by a caring relative, what if the state had taken her, what if her mother had the sense to be protective of her instead of being her monster.....what if??? Well we all know that going down that path does not help.

This anniversary and the two prior, could have all been avoided. I just don't know who else she could have turned to that would have ensured her safety, I don't know.

Dear little Nixzmary, you are not forgotten.

Nixzmary NY Rally

Update: Rally Photos and Info by Crimesceneblog.com
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Crimesceneblog.com is hosting a rally for Nixzmary Brown in New York City this Sunday, July20th, 2008.

For more information including an activity schedule please visit: http://www.crimesceneblog.com/?p=722

Please stop by Nixzmary's rally at City Park Hall to show your support in ending violence towards children.

Thank you for caring.

Nixzmary Brown 2nd Anniversary

Friday, January 11, 2008 marked the second anniversary of Nixzmary Brown's death. Two years have gone by yet it feels like just last week.

I've been working on an article that included about a dozen or so links to online news outlets that have written about the horror she lived. The article was quickly turning into an ocean of links so I removed all but one link. Another reason why I opted to omit them was that they all repeated pretty much the same things. The amount of articles out there was overwhelming. Via email I ended up with several hundred alerts referencing Nixzmary's case. As a matter of fact, a short while ago I queried her name and in one search engine alone 47,400 results appeared about 10 minutes later that number jumped to 47,500.

Her untimely death allegedly at the hands of the people who were suppose to love and protect her has obviously sparked many discussions. For legal reasons I had to throw the allegedly in there yet the fact is she did not do this to herself.

Children are supposed to become adults not statistics. Is the power of freedom such that some people feel entitled to take out those they bring into this world?

How much did her stepfather and mother think she could take? What did they think was going to happen to her after everything she had been through? Did they hope she would bounce back? Did they think that she would snap into a perfect child and all would be fine? How stupid do you have to be to do the same thing over and over again and expect different results?

At the root of such sad and painful incidents such as this is the fact the parents did not do what was best for the child. The question is, why? Answer: Indifference and cowardliness.

When did it become okay to torture a child? Who is responsible when children die or are tortured allegedly at the hands of their guardians or parents? Tell me why can't we blame the parents, their adult family members, even their close friends? Those who knew first hand the constant nightmare Nixzmary was living and did absolutely nothing to help her in my opinion are to blame. She needed one determined, fiercely-loving person and she would still be alive.

If it turns out to be true that her mom has deep seeded emotional issues as alleged by her husband, then why on earth wasn't he or someone from her family making sure she received treatment? Why is it that the last thing a person thinks of is facing a jury/going to jail when they commit such atrocities? Truth be told, they probably don't think about anything at that moment however, that is no excuse. In the end, who also pays the price for those apathetic, thoughtless acts?

Indifference is a slow poison that humanity must seriously address every chance it gets. If we don't address it then there will always be another Nixzmary.

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More on Nixzmary Brown including Nixzmary's Law, ACS, Pretrial etc:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nixzmary_Brown

In Memory of Nixzmary

Nixzmary an angel I never met,

yet what happen to you I will never forget.

No one was brave enough to rescue you,

no one felt what you went through.

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Your short life here was drenched in pain,

yesterday you were laid to rest amidst the rain.

Many came to say their goodbye's,

but all you wanted was for them to hear your cries!

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Rest in peace, it's all better now.

Rest little angel, we'll always remember you we vow!

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Nixzmary Brown deceased Jan 11, 2006

She was 7yrs old.

EIC 

(norbela/ac)

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Links:

American Pyschological Association Public Intrest Initiatives

Contact Congress inline for Child Welfare Reform
Rich Schapiro's article in NY Daily News.com